Each phase of life presents challenges in dealing with oneself, with ones partner, children, colleagues and friends and sometimes in life you feel you have reached a dead-end.
The basis of my work is to help you to understand the nature of these situations and to assist you in finding out what is effective for you to improve your current situation and to develop concrete solutions that you can apply in the long term to heal and live a fulfilled life.
I work with adults, adolescents and children and by using different psychological methods I address on different levels, body, spirit and soul. The goal is to free your own potential to resolve problems, to heal and to develop the abilities to surmount the obstacles that are lying in your path on the way to taking charge of your own life.
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Counselling and Psychotherapy Practice Marbella
Urbanización El Riachuelo
Calle Isabel de Farnesio 1c
E - 29601 Marbella
- Mobil: 605 390 346
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Potential-oriented psychotherapy, family constellations, management development
Psychologist (Dipl. Psych.)
Supervisor (BDP German Association of Psychologists)
N° Col. GR – 02960
|Year of Birth:||1958|
|Place of Birth:||Lüdenscheid|
|1978 – 1984||Studies of psychology at the Ruhr – University – Bochum|
|1984||Psychologist (Diplom – Psychologin)|
|1988 – 1991||Formation in Psychodrama|
|1991||Clinical Psychologist (BDP German Association of Psychologists)|
|1988 – 1989||Formation in Re-birthing according to Leonard Orr|
|1999||German Approbation as Psychological Psychotherapist in Behaviour Therapy|
|2008 – 2010||Master in Brief Strategic Therapy according to Giorgio Nardone|
|1985 – 1986||Lecturer at the ÖTV-Institute of Formation in Duisburg in (the range of) communication and interaction|
|1986 – 1988||Psychologist at the Wetter Primary School as assistant for children with unusual behaviour|
|1988 – 1993||Therapist at the Dyslexic Institute Wuppertal and Solingen|
|1988 - 1989||Psychologist at the Student Advisory Servant of the University / Comprehensive University Wuppertal for psychological and orientation counselling|
|1989 – 1994||Psychological Practice in Solingen and Düsseldorf|
|Since 1994||Psychological and Counselling Practice in Marbella|
|Since 2013||School Psychologist at the German School in the province of Màlaga, Colegio Alemán Juan Hoffmann|
Counselling and Psychotherapy Practice Marbella
Urbanización El Riachuelo
Calle Isabel de Farnesio 1c
E - 29601 Marbella
Mobil: 6 05 39 03 46
N° Col. GR - 02960
Tax Number / N.I.E.: X - 185 2 186 - L
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What is psychotherapy?
How can it help me?
What happens in psychotherapy?
What is psychotherapy?
Psychotherapy literally means "healing of the soul" or the treatment of problems of soul. Psychotherapy is concerned with healing through communication, mindfulness and the movement of the heart towards harmony. It concerns the exploration of inner truths, the bringing to awareness and examining of certain unconscious beliefs, evaluations and prejudices.
It addresses the management and resolution of situations which previous attempts have failed to address. It is important to be able to incorporate insights so gained into daily life.. There is no recourse to medical intervention.
There are a variety of psychotherapeutic orientations:
- Psychodrama, which can be compared with the playing of roles
- Breathing therapy (also called rebirthing)
- Systemic Family Constellations Therapy
- Strategic Brief Therapy
- Holding therapy for the treatment of children
How can it help me?
In every phase of life there are challenges and tasks that need to be solved as part and parcel of the process of growth. This affects all areas of our lives such as family, partnership, employment, and the shaping of our social environment. This requires an internal and external dialogue with self and others, within an atmosphere of respect, in which one discovers ones own strengths and capacities, where one explores the setting of appropriate boundaries. In this respect psychotherapy is relevant to both the healthy as well as the psychologically troubled.
The effectiveness of psychotherapy in the treatment of mental disorders and problems is sufficiently documented by many studies. And it often surpasses drug therapy.
The kinds of problems psychotherapy can be helpful in are:
For example the fear of confined spaces, such as for example in the elevator (claustrophobia), the fear of heights, of wide open spaces (agoraphobia),
Anxiety in social situations, for example to come into contact with strangers, or walking alone to an event
Panic attacks with sweating, heart palpitations, trembling and dizziness.
This can cause the following symptoms:
loss of interest
loss of appetite
difficulties in concentration
reduced self-confidence and self esteem
- Eating disorders:
greatly reduced food intake
eating binges followed by vomiting
preoccupation with food
constant changing of diets and weight gain
overeating and excessive weight gain
dissatisfaction with the body
- Obsessive Compulsive Disorders
Obsessive thoughts, the constant recurrence of thoughts that can not be controlled,
Compulsions arising out of an inner pressure, such as repeatedly needing to make sure the door is locked, or compulsive hand-washing
- Other diseases:
Psychosomatic diseases, e.g. stomach ulcers, intestinal disorders
Reactions to highly stressful experiences of a traumatic nature; Burnout
The list is extensive.
What happens in psychotherapy?
The first hour is used to get to know each other, express your concerns and specify any targets for the coming period. A good relationship with the therapist is an essential element for the success of therapy. According to many studies it accounts for half of the success of the treatment.
Depending on the method of treatment embarked upon, which is applied with flexibility depending on the need of the situation, the sessions can unfold in a myriad of ways.
Psychodrama offers the opportunity to emotionally immerse oneself in a concrete situation, to embody the role reversal as a new experience and to understand the perspective of the other. It is very action-oriented and provides the basis for trying out new things and to incorporate them into everyday life. It clarifies relationships and helps in resolving conflicts
Body-oriented techniques can help to circumvent the restrictive control of the mind. Through a particular kind of breathing emotional themes come to awareness, feelings are expressed out into the open and released during exhalation.
In strategic brief therapy a rapid change of symptoms is facilitated. There is in the course of the hour "homework" assigned, designed to lead to a transformation of perception in everyday life. The combination of explorations during the sessions and the tasks undertaken as homework have the effect of shortening treatment duration as well as creating a strong basis from which to address severe difficulties, for example panic attacks, eating or obsessive compulsive disorders.
In being held within the framework of a safe embrace, children find the possibility to express their feelings and free themselves of anger, sadness and disappointment.
The perspective of Systemic Family Constellations has extended psychotherapy in a crucial way. Influences from the family of origin often determine existing relationships and difficulties. In group or one to one work these unconscious influences become visible and with awareness, appreciation and love can be understood, clarified, resolved.
Counselling can be helpful in acute situations where a decision is required to be made or a problem needs to be solved. In most cases a few sessions are enough. Together, we explore ways in which you are empowered to come to a resolution, mobilising your own resources.
For example in the following situations counselling makes sense:
- Conflicts at work
- Life crisis
- Changes in life
- Making decisions
- Issues of child - rearing
Letting love flow
In Systemic Family Constellations according to Bert Hellinger, the focus is on the acquiring of insights into the bonds and the entanglements within the family of origin and an appreciation of their influence on the trajectory of our inner lives.
Much of the work is done while constructing and working within specific constellations. These constellations draw to our attention how we are all unconsciously involved in the fate of our clan and our ancestors and over several generations. Many current attitudes, difficulties, constraints, accidents or illnesses have their roots in an unconscious assumption of the fates of our ancestors.
Through such constellations come to light those deep ties of destiny or the “conscience of the family", and we can through the appreciation of "orders of love", arrive at a resolution. In the process previously bound and entangled energies are freed. This can contribute to a healing and there is more receptivity in our selves to take in or be open to the good things in life.
While being guided by your own feeling, we constellate your internal image of family members past and present with other participants who represent them. Through this process, those standing in are able to reflect in an astonishing way exactly the feelings and sensations of the family members they represent. It is quite moving the manner in which the family system of the client is freed from long standing burdens.
It has to do with the freeing of ones self from entanglements, from feelings of guilt and with destinies not to do with you, with a sense of belonging and exclusion, with taking and rejecting your parents, with equality in partnerships, with a disquiet or acceptance of ones own destiny, and with the respectful coming to terms with or a powerful reconciliation with what is.
"Finding what works, appreciating what is and being touched by the love in the soul” is the essence of the work in Systemic Family Constellation.
Neuorientierung durch Tiefenatmung
Psychische Spannungen finden ihren Niederschlag in körperlichen Beschwerden, Haltungen und Verspannungen. Eine spezielle Tiefenatmung öffnet uns und führt uns an gegenwärtige Belastungen und an verdrängte Inhalte heran, die sich im Laufe unseres Lebens angesammelt haben und dem Bewusstsein normalerweise schwer oder nicht zugänglich sind. Wir durchleben Gefühle und Situationen, die uns stark belastet haben, wie z.B. frühkindliche, angstbesetzte Situationen, Erlebnisse im Bauch der Mutter, das Trauma der Geburt oder Ereignisse aus unserem späteren Leben. Beim entspannten, gelösten Ausatmen befreien wir uns von Blockierungen und Spannungen in der Muskulatur und in unserem Gefühlsleben. Körper und Geist entspannen sich.
Im Gespräch mit der Therapeutin werden die Erfahrungen in den Alltag integriert. Durch kreative Gedankenarbeit lösen wir uns von falschen Glaubenssätzen und lernen, uns neu zu orientieren. Im konstruktiven Denken wird unser eigenes Potenzial frei. Wir beginnen, selbstbestimmt und frei unser Leben zu gestalten
Loki and Helmut Schmidt, the former German chancellor, have loved each other over decades through good times and bad. Lokis reply to the question of what keeps their love alive was that they have never lost interest in what is important to the other and in what the other is involved in.
Many yearn for such a sustained, vital and lasting relationship. Or they have lost an intimacy once treasured which they would like to rekindle.
Themes in Couples Counselling
Often love towards a partner is coupled with great wishes, hopes and aspiration. In first love the partner is perceived and experienced as ideal. Only after some time do we begin to see them as they really are. At first we enjoy their strengths. Then we discover more and more of their limitations. The desire then grows to change the other according to our own ideas. This of course goes against the deep need each of us has to be accepted as we truly are.
Some partnerships are burdened by the lack of an adequate separation from parents or from previous partners. The appreciation and acknowledgement of previous partners and the act of turning towards the father for the man and the mother for the woman and being open to receiving all that is being given is a necessary basis for the development of presence and attentiveness in contact with the partner and with the children. As parents the attention is often mainly focused on the children. It is important that the relationship between the parents themselves is attended to and that the love between them is kept alive.
We often carry in our unconscious unresolved issues belonging to members of our own family of origin, that is to say, anxieties, feelings of guilt and negative experiences of those who have gone before us. This can have significant impact on our current relationships. By making such things conscious we have the possibility of freeing ourselves from their grip and thereby also honouring the individuals in question and their own fate.
The objective of Couples Counselling
Counselling leads us to develop new perspectives and to find solutions to existing patterns of behaviour and conflicts. It helps us identify what nurtures the relationship and what constrains it. Counselling is particularly effective for those who wish to deepen their relationship or those who are in acute crisis or want to enhance communication and foster a deeper understanding.
When is Sex therapy useful?
- If you have no desire
- If you have erection problems
- If you feel unwell during sex over a long period of time
- If you have pain during intercourse
- If you are afraid of sex
- If you remain dry
- Repeated infections
- If you don't have an orgasm
- If you have premature ejaculation
What happens in Sex Therapy?
In the first session we explore your problem. What did you do to try to solve it?
Because sex is spontaneous you cannot control it with your willpower. In contrast the more you try the worse the situation may get.
To stop the vicious circle you get tasks to practice. You have new experiences that change your perceptions and feelings. Thereby nature is supporting the healing process.
There are different kinds of supervision:
- Job related supervision
- Supervision for psychologists and therapists
Supervision can take place in groups, within teams or one-to-one. Supervision is a powerful means by which to effect change in your self. Strategies for conflict resolution and for and success are identified. You reflect upon and deploy your own personal experiences as a resource to transform difficult situations. The perception, awareness and presence in the moment opens up new ways to behave and to create.
Job related supervision
Job related themes in the supervision can be:
- Conflicts in the work place with the superiors, colleagues, assistants or clients
- Stress and excessive demands
- A wish to evolve or change
This list is not exhaustive.
What happens in supervision?
In conversation we explore the nature of the issues you are struggling with and define goals for the supervision. Together we find solutions in the context of your work and the possibilities available to you.
Using Psychodrama you put yourself in the position of the other, experience their perspective and react in a way which allows frozen patterns of behaviour and feelings to come into movement until these are given space and released. The focus is on the discovering of your own qualities and resources, which are often blocked when we find ourselves in conflicts. The objective is to approach challenges in a constructive manner, solve problems and manage changes actively, so that you can go to work relaxed.
Supervision for psychologists and therapists
Supervision serves to enhance your potential within the therapeutic work. You receive specific professional input regarding your clients, but more than that, there is a strong focus on your personal development.
Psychodrama is an excellent method to understand the client by playing out his role, thus expanding your capacity to facilitate them more effectively. Your projections and the ones of your client become clearer and this contributes to more effective therapeutic contact. The communication is flowing again and your creative resources are available to facilitate the therapeutic process.
Therapy for Mathematics Learning Disability
When does a child need Dyscalculia Therapy?
- When a child is still counting using fingers
- When it has no understanding of amounts
- The child calculates by counting
- There is no improvement despite a lot of practice.
The earlier a mathematics learning disorder is identified the earlier the child can be helped and so less therapy is required.
The difficulty in learning mathematics is not based on the intelligence or laziness of your child or the failure of the parents and teachers.
If you have doubts regarding the mathematical capacity of your child, do a short test in the kindergarten or during the first class. It is possible that your child is able to adopt mathematic rules correctly but cannot understand the basic concept of an amount. This becomes more apparent when the exercises become more difficult and independent thinking is necessary to find the result.
The therapy involves introducing an understanding of quantities without counting. This is the basis for solutions of all mathematic processes and operations.
Apart from dyscalculia therapy I work with the parents of children who have behavioural difficulties at home or at school. The parents are important in therapy as they have a direct influence on the children in everyday life.
If a child is too exuberant, does not obey and seems to be stronger than the parents or teachers or does not react to punishment or admonishment, “embracing therapy” for children is really helpful.
How does “embracing” work?
Either or both parents attend the therapy session and the child is embraced in a way that it can hardly move. This is usually takes place when sitting or lying down.
The intention is to allow the child to freely express its most hidden feelings of security in the embrace. It has nothing to do with punishment. The attitude of the parents is: "I will hug you until you have expressed everything and I am with you through thick and thin until the end – in love". The parents are genuine in this expression as well as giving the child their head within certain limits.
After a while the child has released its anger and sorrow. It relaxes and is completely disengaged. The emotional blockages are released. The way is open to respectful and loving behaviour. In this way the child attains deeper confidence. It needs the strong limits to feel safe and to realise the power of the parents.
If your child has developed a tic, shows compulsive behaviour or is the class clown then Brief Strategic Therapy is helpful.
What happens in the Brief Strategic Therapy?
First of all we explore the problems of the child and the reactions of the parents, teachers and brothers and sisters. Often solutions that have been previously tried have not shown the expected results and so you need support.
We develop some tasks to practice at home or at school in order to change the behaviour and the perception of the child. Usually there is a change after a short time. The previous patterns of behaviour become uninteresting to the child become less prevalent and feels a lot better. You will strengthen your self-confidence as parents by again being perceived as the "master of the situation" having adopted an effective tool of education.
Self-awareness in the group
Group therapy offers a wonderful opportunity to start on the road to clarify personal and family issues.
Sharing the load with like-minded people inspires you to discover and try ways out of difficult situations. You satisfy the human need to learn, to grow and to expand beyond your own limits. It is a delight to create community with the other members of the group and to collaborate over a period of time in the solving of their problems.
In the seminars in contrast to what you experience in normal family life and in the workplace, you are not subjected to judgement or evaluation. Instead of this you find a general attitude of friendly, sympathetic impartiality. In this atmosphere you can focus on the everyday problems and find solutions together.
Groups that take place regularly:
- Systemic Family Constellations
For more information and appointments please get in contact with me and look under “Systemic Family Constellations”.